Me & my parents : Story of every home

Today me and my parents fight at home on such a silly topic. But after so much thinking I felt that this is happened just because my fault or his fault but I found something different that is nothing rather than generation gap between me and my parents. So I am just giving you the glimpse about generation gap.

Nowadays the older people and the younger population complain of generation gap and of breaking down the communication between these twos. But who is to blame? I think both go amiss now and then.

The generation gap is the constant struggle of the parents to prevent their kids from doing things that their own experiences and wisdom tell them is going to harm their kids. The kids on the other hand try constantly to prove to the parents that they are equipped to take control of their lives. Neither is wrong – they are both right in their own premise. The parents blinded by their love for the kids would rather have their own experiences replace the experiences of their kids. Whereas, the kids are convinced that their decisions are right and are based on current situations that the parents may not necessarily be aware of. Their most common statement is “My things are different now…”

The elders are more critical of the younger generation with a big inventory of complaints against the young and the young mostly tend to ignore the grumbling, mumbling and occasional loud protestations of the older generation. But now and then they do protest. They resent the petting attitude of the elders.

The generation gap, however, is a deeper malady than viewed superficially. There may be the following differences between the old and the young :

  • Of ideas on general conduct comprising dress, food habits etc.
  • Morality, marriage & career
  • Of tastes on art, music, literature, and in short total outlook.
  • Family unit breaking up and gradually losing the importance it once had. The central authority of the paternal figure becoming redundant.
  • Imposition of the self-righteous attitude of the older generation on the young.
  • Biological evolutionary difference

It is generally observed that the old behave like a frog in the well. They are fully convinced that the ideas they have had throughout their lives are the ultimate and ideal. They ignore certain vital factors that are no longer valid in the case of the modernity. There always has been generation gap since the dawn of civilization. The young have always deviated from the older standards and it was well that they did or there wouldn’t have been any progress today.

The younger generation naturally differs in dress, food, habits etc, as all these were not available to the older generation. These changes are indicative of progress. With the passage of time when the society, right from the basic unit of the family through society and the entire humanity, is changing, how can the new generation be asked to stagnate or move backward to the ancestors’ way of life? In the olden days, in the Indian society the arranged marriage took place first and love between husband and the wife were thought to be a natural development.

It will be generally agreed that most fathers want their offspring to adopt the same profession that they themselves followed without giving due weight to the aptitude of the offspring. This causes tension between the elders and the children. The younger generation is more intellectually evolved than the preceding one. But the ego of the older people does not permit them to accept this hard truth and they would always like to play the role of the destiny makers of the younger ones.

It’s not necessary that the kids do not understand their parents’ love and their concern but they just think that they are in a different era. Till such time we ourselves do not become parents and get to the same pedestal we do not realize.

Generation gaps can be reduced to some extent by making efforts. I must mention here most efforts must come from the parents – they have the wisdom. It becomes easier to adjust if the parents constantly refresh their memories by their own past outrageous.

I appeal to all my friends and youngsters that please don’t make your parents cry who sacrifice all for you……just try to understand them and their experience….If you can’t than leave it on situation but don’t argue with them. I appeal to all parents too that try to understand your children first listen them and then conclude anything.

If one step they can move towards us then we have to move two steps towards them…then we can feel the gap between generation.


14 Replies to “Me & my parents : Story of every home”

  1. I think it all comes down to having an open mind.

    I think the current age is a special one because we have made tremendous progress in the last 10-20 years especially with the availability of information. So it may end up that children are much more knowledgeable and willing to take risks than their parents who are much more conservative.

    I think if parents can keep an always learning mind then they will have it much easier to accept that the world is constantly changing and we need to move with the times.

  2. dear harshal…very well said… it has been an endless discussion everywhere i guess regardless of culture or race…

    after my siblings and i finished our courses in college, we were left to decide for ourselves… my parents would just give their opinions on something but never insist on them…

    they don’t understand our generation much, but my mom’s very flexible as she’s very good in handling children…

    filipinos don’t generally have issues on fixed marriages except perhaps the very rich…in order to preserve their wealth… many, i believe, have chinese origins…

    to the old, i say, give the young a space to “grow”… don’t ‘overly do it’… and at the same time don’t hurry them up…

    to the young, there’s nothing wrong in asserting but there’s an art in speaking… and this should always be with respect…

    thanks for this wonderful post… i hope you’ll both grow in patience… 😉

    1. Thanks Varsha for your valuable attention towards the post and precious comment….

      Keep Visiting to know what’s next to learn about life and what we have to think once…..!! before live life happily.

  3. Hi Harshal! A really commendable effort! I feel that elderly people who are not rigid, who are well-acquainted with the present scenario, who believes that the only thing constant in life is change will never fall in this dogma of generation gap. Infact they might turn out to be the best pal. Sometimes, I feel that we use this term only to rescue ourselves from a sticky situation. It is often seen that discord of opinion happens between people belonging to the peer group. Then we say that “opinions are different”. We don’t call it any gap. So why don’t we say the same for elderly people too. Things will look much less complicated and less bitter if we just change our outlook a little bit. 🙂

    1. Yeap..! Sudipta you are right but you know today’s youngsters a warm blood always do mistakes in hurry and made parents sad. Even I had did this mistake so much time in past but when I realize I feel ashame on me…..And thats why think that to share with all people in the world from this blog…..Anyways thanks for reading my post carefully and give your precious comment….

      Keep Visiting to know what’s next to learn about life and what we have to think once…..!! before live life happily.

  4. An extremely sensitive post…and for someone as young as you are,to think so deeply..just today I had an argument with my mom..and after reading this,I have realized what I have done…Thanks for this Harshal..lots of love to u always.

  5. GENERATION GAP is a very important issue for all generations. following the present trends is not a problem, but disrespecting our parents for a mere change in life can make a vast difference in the relation we have with them. we must be grateful to all the inherited factors that they have gifted us. what we are today is all because of them. so lets make them feel proud that we are their own, not someone different.

    1. Very true my friend…..Sancheeta. Sometimes we forget that thing that we are here just because of them and we are fighting with them on very small topic…..I made a mistake today and realize that and think on that and found the reason.

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