Today me and my parents fight at home on such a silly topic. But after so much thinking I felt that this is happened just because my fault or his fault but I found something different that is nothing rather than generation gap between me and my parents. So I am just giving you the glimpse about generation gap.
Nowadays the older people and the younger population complain of generation gap and of breaking down the communication between these twos. But who is to blame? I think both go amiss now and then.
The generation gap is the constant struggle of the parents to prevent their kids from doing things that their own experiences and wisdom tell them is going to harm their kids. The kids on the other hand try constantly to prove to the parents that they are equipped to take control of their lives. Neither is wrong – they are both right in their own premise. The parents blinded by their love for the kids would rather have their own experiences replace the experiences of their kids. Whereas, the kids are convinced that their decisions are right and are based on current situations that the parents may not necessarily be aware of. Their most common statement is “My things are different now…”
The elders are more critical of the younger generation with a big inventory of complaints against the young and the young mostly tend to ignore the grumbling, mumbling and occasional loud protestations of the older generation. But now and then they do protest. They resent the petting attitude of the elders.
The generation gap, however, is a deeper malady than viewed superficially. There may be the following differences between the old and the young :
- Of ideas on general conduct comprising dress, food habits etc.
- Morality, marriage & career
- Of tastes on art, music, literature, and in short total outlook.
- Family unit breaking up and gradually losing the importance it once had. The central authority of the paternal figure becoming redundant.
- Imposition of the self-righteous attitude of the older generation on the young.
- Biological evolutionary difference
It is generally observed that the old behave like a frog in the well. They are fully convinced that the ideas they have had throughout their lives are the ultimate and ideal. They ignore certain vital factors that are no longer valid in the case of the modernity. There always has been generation gap since the dawn of civilization. The young have always deviated from the older standards and it was well that they did or there wouldn’t have been any progress today.
The younger generation naturally differs in dress, food, habits etc, as all these were not available to the older generation. These changes are indicative of progress. With the passage of time when the society, right from the basic unit of the family through society and the entire humanity, is changing, how can the new generation be asked to stagnate or move backward to the ancestors’ way of life? In the olden days, in the Indian society the arranged marriage took place first and love between husband and the wife were thought to be a natural development.
It will be generally agreed that most fathers want their offspring to adopt the same profession that they themselves followed without giving due weight to the aptitude of the offspring. This causes tension between the elders and the children. The younger generation is more intellectually evolved than the preceding one. But the ego of the older people does not permit them to accept this hard truth and they would always like to play the role of the destiny makers of the younger ones.
It’s not necessary that the kids do not understand their parents’ love and their concern but they just think that they are in a different era. Till such time we ourselves do not become parents and get to the same pedestal we do not realize.
Generation gaps can be reduced to some extent by making efforts. I must mention here most efforts must come from the parents – they have the wisdom. It becomes easier to adjust if the parents constantly refresh their memories by their own past outrageous.
I appeal to all my friends and youngsters that please don’t make your parents cry who sacrifice all for you……just try to understand them and their experience….If you can’t than leave it on situation but don’t argue with them. I appeal to all parents too that try to understand your children first listen them and then conclude anything.
If one step they can move towards us then we have to move two steps towards them…then we can feel the gap between generation.